Well, if you have made it this far, then I commend your effort and congratulate you! You are obviously motivated enough to know that you or a loved one may have a problem, and we here at Dynamic Discovery are not only happy to try to help you, but take great pleasure in helping you find a solution. We don’t measure our success in the amount of money we make; we measure it in the amount of people that we have helped over the years, and that number not only makes us happy, but it means we are more successful.
Military ExperiencesI had tried many different jobs but could never find what I wanted to do with my life. I decided to join the Canadian Forces regular component as an infantryman. I had some marital difficulties while overseas and away on exercise but too far away to do anything. Enjoying many parts of the military, I completed grade 12, so I could pursue officer training. Eventually, I was recommended for officer candidate training, but applied and was approved for a university plan, which would allow me to attend university and receive full pay. While I was on exercise, I lost a son to crib death and started heavy drinking and decided to leave the military and later my wife.
Police ExperiencesAfter leaving the military, I became a police officer. There were some issues as I was always outspoken on issues or problems that I could find many ways to solve problems, which fit with the military but not with policing. I was becoming pretty good at drinking, and my next wife wasn’t as keen on all the booze, I had to stop. Towards the end of my policing career, I was becoming bitter about the job. I had been learning about creating change in myself and others, while in a training role. Change within policing agencies weren’t always welcome by rank and file. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD, depression, stress, abuse, and anxiety weren’t talked about back then like today. The stigma of being perceived as weak by peers or yourself forced many people to turn to other means of treating their mental illness, such as drugs or alcohol.
University ExperiencesIn 1990, I made a life-changing decision and decided to leave the police department and complete my degree and attend university full-time. To support myself, I was working as a teaching assistant and at a part-time consulting & training business in race relations. Throughout my career, as a soldier and a police officer I had been continuously working on completing my degree, and finally, after eighteen years, I had earned a four-year degree in Adult Education.
Work ExperiencesAfter completing my degree, I took a job with a multinational security guard company and rose to a regional manager within a year but left after two years when they decided not to pay a promised bonus. Based on what I learned, I started my own security business and later purchased a janitorial company. We became a regional company with offices in three cities with about 160 employees.
Life ExperiencesI thought that I had reached a certain level of success, family, house, cars, church, etc. I had no patience with family, few relations with my estranged kids, not a great relationship with my second wife, anger, resentments, road rage, impatience, etc. Alas, after a lifelong struggle with illness our 13-year-old son died of respiratory failure. It devastated us, and I began to have more addiction problems. And another failed marriage.
A new relationship became a repeat of old problems and after attending different counselors for a few years, I learned I was an alcoholic who hadn’t been a hard drinker in about 30 years (dry drunk) who believed all you had to do was stop drinking (end of problems). My childhood came up and having been abused as a kid began surfacing. We use addictions to cope with a life for which we had no coping skills.
Dynamic ExperienceI have learned that we can give up the booze, and that is about 15% of the problem but being a jerk makes up the remainder of the problem which doesn’t go away so quickly. So I got hooked up with AA and started on a journey, but it was faltering. After a few years at AA, I met this guy named George I told him I wanted more than one day at a time, I didn’t want to be an alcoholic anymore. He hooked me up with an outstanding counselor, and I learned how to overcome recover from my mood problems and resolve past and present problems. I was tired of living in this wretched world, and I wanted out.
George taught me more of how to overcome issues such as anger, depression, sadness or any imaginable mood by relaxing with almost the blink of an eye. But, I still had to come to grips with problems and the past, but it was easier without the stress or moods.
I had spent many years working with youth groups and churches. I got to be with my kids. I learned much about ADHD and that I had been a long history of school and life problems related to ADHD.
I am grateful for learning today my problems arise from being ADHD and having anxiety issues, depression, addiction and PTSD because I believe it can be overcome to have and live a new life.
I live happily with my new wife and have a good relationship with my daughter and her family, my son and my brother (all sober). My wife has spoken at some of my workshops about the differences between my old life and my new one (significant differences). I recently completed a masters degree in clinical social work at USC while maintaining a reduced client load. I finished with an average of plus 90, which I thought was pretty good for a guy with ADHD who completed his first degree with a 78 average. My concentrations were Mental Health, Assessment & Diagnosis, Addictions, and Trauma. I have also received specialized training in neurolinguistic programming, and hypnosis
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