Recognizing you're in a Codependent Relationship is the first step There is nothing easy about relationships, ever. Let’s face it if they were easy and required no work then there wouldn’t be any single or divorced people anywhere. In every relationship, there are going to be high points and low points, figuring out exactly what sort of relationship you are in and knowing when it’s over or when it is time to work on things is the key to a happy life. If you feel as if you are always on the low points, and there are no high points, and your … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 1)
Reaching Out For Help can be difficult It is not unusual to get a call from someone (usually a woman) who says, “Our marriage is in trouble but (my partner) won’t go to counseling with me. What can I do?” Let’s pause to consider the situation… When one partner suggests bringing a counselor into their marriage problems the other partner either hears an alarm while envisioning being attacked by their partner and the counselor or imagines the stories that their partner and the counselor will release to the world. Confidentiality be damned! … [Read more...]
Codependency
Codependency - What is it? Codependency is a condition that results in a dysfunctional relationship between the codependent and other people. A codependent is addicted to helping someone. They need to be needed. This addiction is sometimes so strong, the codependent will cause the other person to continue to be needy. This behavior is called enabling. The enabler will purposefully overlook someone abusing a child, will call in sick for someone suffering from addiction, will put roadblocks to prevent their child from becoming independent, or … [Read more...]