Would you like to know just how intimate your relationship really is? By answering the following questions in this relationship quiz honestly, you will be able to evaluate what sort of relationship you have. Part One Does your bond with your partner satisfy your need for connecting? Yes___No___ Do you feel love, warm affection or passion when thinking of your partner? Yes___No___ Do you feel you are significant to your partner in some important way? Yes___No___ Do you feel your partner admires you in some … [Read more...]
Intimate Relationships – Intimacy, Sex & Sexuality
"Marriage is one of the chief causes of divorce." The information in this piece was originally contained in a Newsletter I wrote in 1999. I believe that it is every bit as relevant today as it was then. There are certain hazards or pitfalls that are specific to intimate relationships. If we are unaware of them, we fall into them, to our peril. If our life experiences have conditioned us to defend ourselves against the vulnerability involved in love, trust, affection, closeness and need, we develop defenses. Someone, I no longer recall … [Read more...]
Bullying can happen to anyone or anywhere
Bullying can happen when you are young, old, at work, school, or anywhere else Cautionary Note: Dealing with bullies is nearly as difficult as dealing with a psychopath because so many of them are highly skilled at hiding their bullying personality from their supervisors. This piece is really just an overview, so if you think you have one or more bullies in your shop – or if you work with or for a bully – talk to a professional. If you do need assistance, we can help you with identifying an outside professional who will be able to walk you … [Read more...]
Assertiveness and Difficult People
“One who measures up to his own idea of greatness may have had a very low standard in mind.” Learning to deal with Assertive and Difficult People in your daily life. What Is Assertiveness? What is the difference between being assertive and being aggressive? Will people think that I'm being pushy? These are common questions and concerns. Here are some pointers to help clarify what assertiveness is really all about. Assertiveness is... Assertiveness is expressing our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in a direct, honest, and appropriate … [Read more...]
Anger Management – Learning to Control It
"If a problem has a single neck, it has a simple solution." Is there really such a thing as Managing and/or Controlling anger? Absolutely. Or, maybe. Or, could happen. Anger management is today's most popular anger treatment technique. Part of anger management is to understand why we are angry, and where it is rooted in us mentally and emotionally. We are angry about something, and the real problem is rooted deeply. The root of anger is usually fear, and fear seems to be an emotion related to the unknown future – in other words, we fear … [Read more...]
Communication + Intimate Relationship
Excerpt from Why We Fail at Relationships Book When you are in an intimate relationship, you should feel understood and accepted for who you are. You trust the other person and can open up completely to them. Intimacy can be intellectual, emotional, and physical. A ‘good’ intimate relationship is one in which you: pay attention to your partner. share ideas and thoughts. share feelings with each other without fear. try to understand why you and your partner behave as you do. You can communicate in many ways: words (what … [Read more...]