Recognizing you’re in a Codependent Relationship is the first step
There is nothing easy about relationships, ever. Let’s face it if they were easy and required no work then there wouldn’t be any single or divorced people anywhere. In every relationship, there are going to be high points and low points, figuring out exactly what sort of relationship you are in and knowing when it’s over or when it is time to work on things is the key to a happy life. If you feel as if you are always on the low points, and there are no high points, and your partner doesn’t seem to care as much as you then maybe you are in a codependent relationship.
Below are the top ten signs that you may be in a codependent relationship:
- Codependents can be notorious people pleasers; some are always going above and beyond to make everyone else happy. No matter how short the notice, they’ll be there and if they resent it, you will never hear them complain about it.
- They can always happy to sacrifice and are extremely proud about their willingness to do it. They don’t care what they need to sacrifice to help someone and expect that one day it will come back to them.
- Codependents can find it extremely difficult to say no to anyone. They’re more than happy to let people take advantage of them because they believe they will be happy if they give and most of the time don’t even realize that it’s happening.
- Most can’t feel good about themselves or what they are doing unless someone else is reassuring them. Unless it’s validated by someone else, it just isn’t happening.
- Codependents usually fear rejection and will avoid it no matter what the cost to themselves. A codependent person could never willingly walk away from their relationship no matter how bad it was.
- Many codependents will come across as control freaks because they face a lot of emotional ups and downs. They like to cling to as much control as they can to balance out their willingness to let other validate their actions.
- Codependents can always happy to take credit for making other people happy, the only downside to this is they also assume it’s their fault when people are sad or angry. They can’t grasp the reality that they are only responsible for what they do or say not how other people may react to that.
- They often feel that people are personally attacking them. They can get that it is up to other people how they react about what they do and assume that everything someone says is directly aimed at them.
- Many lack good communication skills. They don’t like to ask questions or clarify what someone means because they feel it may upset them. They plough on ahead and hope they get it right, and if it’s wrong, the other person will be happy they tried.
- Most codependents will always put the other person in a relationship first, no matter how negative the impact is on them and their health. They will go down with a dysfunctional relationship to the end, no matter what.
If you know someone or see any of these signs in yourself, then you may be in a codependent relationship or know someone who is. The good news is that it is never too late to change and ask for help, to live a happy and healthy life that you always dreamed of! Grab George’s book today for how to start living a healthy life!