So what is Dynamic Self-esteem?
Far too many people believe that “success” at a given task or set of tasks is judged only at the end, believing that if they are not perfect or if they didn’t win the prize or beat their opponent into the ground, or if they didn’t get asked to the dance, or if they don’t weigh a certain amount then they didn’t succeed and they aren’t any good.
Let that sink in…
If you don’t reach some level of perfection you aren’t any good.
What a bunch of horse pucky! A crock of crap. It’s absurd on a couple levels. First, it’s impossible to be perfect. Secondly, if you can only “succeed” and be happy if you are perfect or if you are the best at something, it would be impossible to be happy and content.
Healthy self-esteem is the thing that helps you feel good about yourself even when you may be failing (most often by someone else’s measure) or even when other people are telling you that you’re not good enough. Well, if your opinion of yourself is based on what other people say and think, then you are in deep trouble.
Here’s a headline for you: Over the course of your life you will, unfortunately, meet people whose role in life is to try to make themselves feel good by making you and others feel miserable.
It has become common in our society to classify people by how many toys they have, what they look like, the kind of house they live in, what school they went to, the degrees on the wall. What you look like has become far more important than who you are.
Happy, and mentally healthy people survive and thrive in today’s world by operating from the Best Interest concept (which means doing things to help you but not to hurt others) which allows them to withstand and redefine all the negative messages about their worth, value and abilities. Without the Best Interest concept, it is difficult, if not impossible, to be totally immune to criticism. It is difficult, if not impossible, to be safe from being teased or harassed. Without the Best Interest concept, even the richest, most beautiful, fittest, most intelligent, most well-loved people can succumb to the messages that scream, “You aren’t good enough.” The truth is, those people often become the biggest target for critics of all types.
But the worst kind of criticism is self-criticism brought on by the desire to be absolutely perfect and from believing what the critics are saying.
That is why we have coupled three programs – Reality Therapy, hypnosis, and NLP – to create Dynamic Discovery to help our clients create real self-esteem for themselves.
Programs such as Dynamic Discovery will enable our clients to ignore and re-label the messages that come from all directions, trying to tell them that they have to be perfect and if they’re not, they are no good.
Dynamic Discovery is remarkable in its ability to change even the most negative self-condemning self-talk into real, positive, lasting self-love, where you feel worthy of achieving even your wildest dreams, no matter how big they are.
- Money cannot give you healthy self-esteem.
- Good looks can’t do it.
- Raving fans can’t do it.
- Even achievements stacked one on top of the other till they reach the sky can’t do it.
Because healthy self-esteem comes from the inside.