"Marriage is one of the chief causes of divorce." The information in this piece was originally contained in a Newsletter I wrote in 1999. I believe that it is every bit as relevant today as it was then. There are certain hazards or pitfalls that are specific to intimate relationships. If we are unaware of them, we fall into them, to our peril. If our life experiences have conditioned us to defend ourselves against the vulnerability involved in love, trust, affection, closeness and need, we develop defenses. Someone, I no longer recall … [Read more...]
About Affairs
It seems to be “common knowledge” that affairs are the refuge of the discontented, that only people in unhappy marriages cheat. But “happy,” it turns out, is not necessarily an antidote to affair(s). There are those who believe (or want to believe) that we currently live in an age of transparency – some believe so because of the instant transmission of information from anywhere in the world, some because of the CCTV cameras that seem to be on every street in the world, and others because they believe they are smarter than anyone from any … [Read more...]