Bullying can happen when you are young, old, at work, school, or anywhere else Cautionary Note: Dealing with bullies is nearly as difficult as dealing with a psychopath because so many of them are highly skilled at hiding their bullying personality from their supervisors. This piece is really just an overview, so if you think you have one or more bullies in your shop – or if you work with or for a bully – talk to a professional. If you do need assistance, we can help you with identifying an outside professional who will be able to walk you … [Read more...]
Are you a Control Freak?
Are you a Control Freak? I have often heard people referred to as controllers or control-freaks, but my work and my studies have led me to believe that the word control is overused (abused?) in relation to human behavior. I understand that the original meaning or intent of the word as a derogatory descriptor referred to those people who raised hell by demanding that everyone around them do, be, and act only in ways that would please the Controller. In therapy, we use the word control as a term that describes people who try to control or make … [Read more...]
My Recipe For Change
Recipe for Change in Short means making small daily improvements, and constantly acknowledge what you are doing well. Here’s a sobering thought: One thing I could never really accept about being an alcoholic was the idea that I was powerless over my behavior. In my head I certainly believed that was true - I knew that for many years I had been unable to control my drinking and had suffered horribly because of it. But once I finally realized how powerless I felt in my heart, I decided there was no way in hell I was going to stay there. I … [Read more...]
5 Myths About Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse
There are many Myths About Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse that can impact how we see ourselves. Myth #1: I can stop drinking anytime I want to. Maybe you can; more likely, you can’t. Either way, it’s just an excuse to keep drinking. The truth is, you don’t want to stop. Telling yourself you can quit makes you feel in control, despite all evidence to the contrary and no matter the damage it’s doing. Myth #2: My drinking is my problem. I’m the one it hurts, so no one has the right to tell me to stop. It’s true that the decision to quit … [Read more...]
Signs and Symptoms of Alcohol Abuse
Common Signs and Symptoms of Alcohol Abuse: Repeatedly neglecting your responsibilities at home, work, or school because of your drinking. For example, performing poorly at work, flunking classes, neglecting your kids, or skipping out on commitments because you’re hung over. Using alcohol in situations where it’s physically dangerous, such as drinking and driving, operating machinery while intoxicated, or mixing alcohol with prescription medication against doctor’s orders. Experiencing repeated legal problems on account of your … [Read more...]
Part 2: A story about untreated ADD and ADHD
As I mentioned in Part 1, living with untreated ADD is hard on not just you but others close to you as well. I was telling you of my friend who attended a clinic in Washington State and was diagnosed with ADHD. It was suggested that he seek counseling to assist him in rehabilitating himself. Back home, he went to a counselor every two weeks for a couple of years. Then the counselor took four months off. My friend was nearly beside myself; what would he do now? Eventually, my friend saw another counselor and he began by giving advice how to … [Read more...]