Using the Body Syndrome Theory in Therapy The body syndrome theory postulates that modern people have adapted to their computer-paced lives to the extent that it feels natural to push through trauma. Consequently, it is no longer instinctual or even a priority to set time aside to feel all of the feelings of the day's upsets and stresses. Many of our clients – when they first come in – report an inability to feel or even recognize their feelings. These individuals have learned to rationalize their traumas, including rejection, cruelty, fear, … [Read more...]
Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
You know that book Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. Sometimes I honestly believe it's true especially when it comes to the blame game in relationships. So, my wife and I were sort of wrestling and it all seemed like fun. I must have gotten carried away and hurt her. I wasn’t trying to but it just sort of happened. I suppose being a man carries that extra responsibility of being bigger and stronger. I was pretty sure it wasn’t because of trying to win and losing sight of the idea of having fun or forgetting we can hurt people too easily … [Read more...]
Part 2: A story about untreated ADD and ADHD
As I mentioned in Part 1, living with untreated ADD is hard on not just you but others close to you as well. I was telling you of my friend who attended a clinic in Washington State and was diagnosed with ADHD. It was suggested that he seek counseling to assist him in rehabilitating himself. Back home, he went to a counselor every two weeks for a couple of years. Then the counselor took four months off. My friend was nearly beside myself; what would he do now? Eventually, my friend saw another counselor and he began by giving advice how to … [Read more...]
What are the long-term effects of untreated ADD?
Does someone you know and love exhibit the following behaviors? Short attention span. Distractibility. Disorganization. Procrastination. Saying or doing things without thinking them through. These are all symptoms or early warning signs of ADD / ADHD, and if left untreated, or improperly treated, can lead to more problems. Some also believe ADD is a children’s problem and we outgrow it as adults. ADD contributes to school problems, marital problems, workplace problems, and many more areas. It’s not just about misbehaving or … [Read more...]
A Response to “What About Depression?”
Following the posting of my October 28, 2014 blog posting titled What About Depression?, I received the following response from a long-time friend. This is his personal journey. George, This is a topic that has always been important to me as I have experienced depression at different times during my life. At one stage it was so bad that I attempted suicide and required a stay at a hospital plus 6 months of therapy from a professional therapist. I was placed on 2 different medications during this period, an upper in the mornings and a downer … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 2)
We are back looking at couples Reaching Out For Help Let’s Look At Our Basic Human Needs In psychology, it is assumed that people have certain basic needs and in our program (Dynamic Discovery) they are classified under 5 headings for which we apply the acronym LAFFS: 1) Love & Belonging - this includes sex, families or loved ones as well as groups. 2) Achievement, Power and Recognition - which includes feeling worthwhile as well as winning. 3) Freedom - includes independence, autonomy, your own 'space'. 4) Fun - includes pleasure … [Read more...]