Are you a Control Freak? I have often heard people referred to as controllers or control-freaks, but my work and my studies have led me to believe that the word control is overused (abused?) in relation to human behavior. I understand that the original meaning or intent of the word as a derogatory descriptor referred to those people who raised hell by demanding that everyone around them do, be, and act only in ways that would please the Controller. In therapy, we use the word control as a term that describes people who try to control or make … [Read more...]
What are the long-term effects of untreated ADD?
Does someone you know and love exhibit the following behaviors? Short attention span. Distractibility. Disorganization. Procrastination. Saying or doing things without thinking them through. These are all symptoms or early warning signs of ADD / ADHD, and if left untreated, or improperly treated, can lead to more problems. Some also believe ADD is a children’s problem and we outgrow it as adults. ADD contributes to school problems, marital problems, workplace problems, and many more areas. It’s not just about misbehaving or … [Read more...]
Everybody Needs Control
Everybody Needs Control We try to control ourselves, people and situations to meet our needs or to get what we want. Often we are not aware that we are doing this. We may walk to the shop to buy something we want but be unaware of our surroundings as we walk down the street. Indeed, we may be "a million miles away" in our minds, daydreaming about something but still end up in the shop we wanted to go to: we were able to control our direction and our walking even though we were not aware of what we were doing! Everybody needs a certain amount … [Read more...]