When I Was A Kid... This piece came about following receipt of an e-mail from a friend on the same topic. Yes, kiddies, this is one of those “remember when…” discussions. So, the majority of you under the age of 50 will not likely relate to this walk down memory lane and many under the age of 60 will probably remember what it was like and probably experienced it in a manner similar to my experiences. When it came to food preparation, our mothers cut, chopped and diced hard boiled eggs, vegetables and meats on the same preparation surface (a … [Read more...]
Dynamic Self-esteem
So what is Dynamic Self-esteem? Far too many people believe that “success” at a given task or set of tasks is judged only at the end, believing that if they are not perfect or if they didn’t win the prize or beat their opponent into the ground, or if they didn’t get asked to the dance, or if they don’t weigh a certain amount then they didn’t succeed and they aren’t any good. Let that sink in… If you don’t reach some level of perfection you aren’t any good. What a bunch of horse pucky! A crock of crap. It’s absurd on a couple levels. … [Read more...]
What if all your problems are just memories?
What if all your problems are just memories? When I first heard that question I’ll admit I was stumped. Thankfully I kept an open mind and I’m glad to tell you the question now makes sense, and it can become a powerful method for re-training ourselves to stay present and detached from past behavior patterns that can cause a lot of damage in all areas of our lives. Think of a problem that you used to believe you had (notice how we purposely phrase the question in the past tense). If you are having a hard time accepting that the problem is … [Read more...]
My Recipe For Change
Recipe for Change in Short means making small daily improvements, and constantly acknowledge what you are doing well. Here’s a sobering thought: One thing I could never really accept about being an alcoholic was the idea that I was powerless over my behavior. In my head I certainly believed that was true - I knew that for many years I had been unable to control my drinking and had suffered horribly because of it. But once I finally realized how powerless I felt in my heart, I decided there was no way in hell I was going to stay there. I … [Read more...]
Finding Happiness Part 2
Finding Happiness in today's society Prejudice and Racism Regarding prejudice and racism, we believe that racism is the "face of sin" from a religious standpoint, and a "moral cancer" from a societal perspective. My position is that there are only three groups of people who do not consciously exhibit hatred, prejudice and racism in life. When given the choice you do not want to belong to the first two groups. Groups Of People Who Do Not Consciously Exhibit Hatred, Prejudice Or Racism: Group No. 1: People who are dead. Group No. 2: People … [Read more...]
Finding Happiness Part 1
Happiness is largely under our control. It is, mostly, a battle to be waged and seldom a feeling to be awaited. To achieve a happier life, it is necessary to overcome some stumbling blocks, three of which are: 1. Comparisons With Others: Most of us compare ourselves with anyone we think is happier. 2. Images of Perfection: Most of us have images how life should be. The problem is that only rarely do our jobs, spouses and children live up to these imagined ideals. 3. “Missing Tile” Syndrome: One effective way of sabotaging happiness is to … [Read more...]