Would you like to know just how intimate your relationship really is? By answering the following questions in this relationship quiz honestly, you will be able to evaluate what sort of relationship you have. Part One Does your bond with your partner satisfy your need for connecting? Yes___No___ Do you feel love, warm affection or passion when thinking of your partner? Yes___No___ Do you feel you are significant to your partner in some important way? Yes___No___ Do you feel your partner admires you in some … [Read more...]
Intimate Relationships – Intimacy, Sex & Sexuality
"Marriage is one of the chief causes of divorce." The information in this piece was originally contained in a Newsletter I wrote in 1999. I believe that it is every bit as relevant today as it was then. There are certain hazards or pitfalls that are specific to intimate relationships. If we are unaware of them, we fall into them, to our peril. If our life experiences have conditioned us to defend ourselves against the vulnerability involved in love, trust, affection, closeness and need, we develop defenses. Someone, I no longer recall … [Read more...]
About Affairs
It seems to be “common knowledge” that affairs are the refuge of the discontented, that only people in unhappy marriages cheat. But “happy,” it turns out, is not necessarily an antidote to affair(s). There are those who believe (or want to believe) that we currently live in an age of transparency – some believe so because of the instant transmission of information from anywhere in the world, some because of the CCTV cameras that seem to be on every street in the world, and others because they believe they are smarter than anyone from any … [Read more...]
Communication + Intimate Relationship
Excerpt from Why We Fail at Relationships Book When you are in an intimate relationship, you should feel understood and accepted for who you are. You trust the other person and can open up completely to them. Intimacy can be intellectual, emotional, and physical. A ‘good’ intimate relationship is one in which you: pay attention to your partner. share ideas and thoughts. share feelings with each other without fear. try to understand why you and your partner behave as you do. You can communicate in many ways: words (what … [Read more...]
Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
You know that book Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. Sometimes I honestly believe it's true especially when it comes to the blame game in relationships. So, my wife and I were sort of wrestling and it all seemed like fun. I must have gotten carried away and hurt her. I wasn’t trying to but it just sort of happened. I suppose being a man carries that extra responsibility of being bigger and stronger. I was pretty sure it wasn’t because of trying to win and losing sight of the idea of having fun or forgetting we can hurt people too easily … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 1)
Reaching Out For Help can be difficult It is not unusual to get a call from someone (usually a woman) who says, “Our marriage is in trouble but (my partner) won’t go to counseling with me. What can I do?” Let’s pause to consider the situation… When one partner suggests bringing a counselor into their marriage problems the other partner either hears an alarm while envisioning being attacked by their partner and the counselor or imagines the stories that their partner and the counselor will release to the world. Confidentiality be damned! … [Read more...]