So what is Dynamic Self-esteem? Far too many people believe that “success” at a given task or set of tasks is judged only at the end, believing that if they are not perfect or if they didn’t win the prize or beat their opponent into the ground, or if they didn’t get asked to the dance, or if they don’t weigh a certain amount then they didn’t succeed and they aren’t any good. Let that sink in… If you don’t reach some level of perfection you aren’t any good. What a bunch of horse pucky! A crock of crap. It’s absurd on a couple levels. … [Read more...]
Part 2: A story about untreated ADD and ADHD
As I mentioned in Part 1, living with untreated ADD is hard on not just you but others close to you as well. I was telling you of my friend who attended a clinic in Washington State and was diagnosed with ADHD. It was suggested that he seek counseling to assist him in rehabilitating himself. Back home, he went to a counselor every two weeks for a couple of years. Then the counselor took four months off. My friend was nearly beside myself; what would he do now? Eventually, my friend saw another counselor and he began by giving advice how to … [Read more...]
The Phenomenon of Being Afraid of Success
Are You Afraid of Success? Many of us wake up one day and hurtfully realize that we are surrounded by people with less smarts and less experience who aren’t nearly as wonderful and have achieved more, do more, have more, give more and seem to enjoy more… who are generally just “more’. And it hurts all the more if they are a lot younger and have less education. What the heck is that all about? The easiest way to explain it is to accuse those people of merely being excellent at brown-nosing and sucking up, but we eventually come to realize … [Read more...]