Recognizing you're in a Codependent Relationship is the first step There is nothing easy about relationships, ever. Let’s face it if they were easy and required no work then there wouldn’t be any single or divorced people anywhere. In every relationship, there are going to be high points and low points, figuring out exactly what sort of relationship you are in and knowing when it’s over or when it is time to work on things is the key to a happy life. If you feel as if you are always on the low points, and there are no high points, and your … [Read more...]
About Affairs
It seems to be “common knowledge” that affairs are the refuge of the discontented, that only people in unhappy marriages cheat. But “happy,” it turns out, is not necessarily an antidote to affair(s). There are those who believe (or want to believe) that we currently live in an age of transparency – some believe so because of the instant transmission of information from anywhere in the world, some because of the CCTV cameras that seem to be on every street in the world, and others because they believe they are smarter than anyone from any … [Read more...]
Bullying can happen to anyone or anywhere
Bullying can happen when you are young, old, at work, school, or anywhere else Cautionary Note: Dealing with bullies is nearly as difficult as dealing with a psychopath because so many of them are highly skilled at hiding their bullying personality from their supervisors. This piece is really just an overview, so if you think you have one or more bullies in your shop – or if you work with or for a bully – talk to a professional. If you do need assistance, we can help you with identifying an outside professional who will be able to walk you … [Read more...]
The Paradox of Intimate Relationships
The paradox of intimate relationships in trouble is this: why, when two people claim they love one another and want for their relationship to be as close as possible, do they insist on doing those things that will ensure they grow further apart? Think about it: how can we get closer when what we’re doing is creating chaos, hurt feelings and resentment? People often call to ask us their most pressing questions about their marriage. They share with us their relationship stories that often take years to unfold in a couple of short paragraphs, … [Read more...]
Communication + Intimate Relationship
Excerpt from Why We Fail at Relationships Book When you are in an intimate relationship, you should feel understood and accepted for who you are. You trust the other person and can open up completely to them. Intimacy can be intellectual, emotional, and physical. A ‘good’ intimate relationship is one in which you: pay attention to your partner. share ideas and thoughts. share feelings with each other without fear. try to understand why you and your partner behave as you do. You can communicate in many ways: words (what … [Read more...]
Teen Dating Violence
Although this blog is directed at teens, I don’t imagine too many of them will actually read it. So, I am going to attempt to reach the parents and hope that some of the information is passed on to their teens to prevent Teen Dating Violence. As this is the month to generate such information, I am inspired by an article I read which started by saying, “Just say no.” This is reminiscent of Nancy Reagan a number of years ago whose theme song was, “Just say no to drugs.” This type of gratuitous advice will have the same dismal impact. Who will … [Read more...]