More Obsessions continued from Part One The Signs of Problematic Computer Use A person who is "addicted" to the computer is likely to have several of the experiences and feelings on the list below: How many of them describe you? You have mixed feelings of well-being and guilt while at the computer. You make unsuccessful efforts to quit or limit your computer use. You lose track of time while on the computer. You neglect friends, family and/or responsibilities in order to be online. When you are not on the computer, you think … [Read more...]
Obsessions (and how to deal with them)
Do you have any obsessions? How do you deal with them? Alcohol The words “alcohol dependence” or “addiction” are often used without a definition. Alcohol or drug addictions means that a person’s alcohol or other drug use has reached the point that the person cannot use without loss of control through overuse, which can produce adverse consequences in significant life areas. The addicted person often develops a psychological and/or physical dependence upon the substance. An addicted person will continue to use the substance in the face of … [Read more...]
Contemplations on the Subject of Desire
Let’s consider some information on the subject of desire: In Buddhism desire is considered one of the main hindrances to enlightenment Wise man once said, "There are two kinds of desire. One kind of desire reinforces the ego and its suffering while the other desire sets the ego aside and dissolves suffering. It is born out of generosity and appreciation." Loa Tzu said, "...rid yourself of desire in order to observe its secrets, but always allow yourself to have desires in order to observe its manifestations." Ram Dass once said, … [Read more...]
The Paradox of Intimate Relationships
The paradox of intimate relationships in trouble is this: why, when two people claim they love one another and want for their relationship to be as close as possible, do they insist on doing those things that will ensure they grow further apart? Think about it: how can we get closer when what we’re doing is creating chaos, hurt feelings and resentment? People often call to ask us their most pressing questions about their marriage. They share with us their relationship stories that often take years to unfold in a couple of short paragraphs, … [Read more...]
Cutting Bad Habits & Addictions – Part Two
Cutting Bad Habits & Addictions As we said in part one of this post, it’s not the brain that does it; your brain is simply the organ that shows the effects of what you believe. Like a chart. That is why NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is so effective compared to other methods that don’t get to the mental root of the problem. It allows smokers to change what they believe about smoking and about themselves. NLP habit-change programs use statements and word pictures that paint mental images designed to get you to stop getting the … [Read more...]
Cutting ‘bad’ Habits and Addictions off at the Knees
Cutting 'bad' Habits and Addictions off at the Knees I just went over the high points of a giant study done on smokers to find out what is going on in their brains when they think about or see images of cigarettes and even what their brains are doing when they see warning labels and pictures. It’s fascinating to know how irrational we humans are, even though we think we’re smart and logical in our decision-making. First, some background data before I tell you what I mean: On the packs of cigarettes in countries like Canada, … [Read more...]