(this piece is excerpted from my book, Why We Fail At Romantic Relationships) Toxic Relationships are more common than we would like to admit. If you have never been in a toxic relationship, this piece will not be of interest to you. If, however, you’ve been a constant traveler on the toxic trail, you may see yourself in here. And, you may recognize the fear that permeates toxic relationships. Say what? Fear? Of what? People unhappy in their intimate relationships may well consider seeking help, but that’s where the fear often takes over. … [Read more...]
Do You Have Trust Issues?
Now that's a topic to explore! Let's start with a definition. Trust - the act of placing confidence in someone or something else - is a fundamental human experience, necessary for society to function and for any person to be relatively happy. Without it, fear rules. Trust is not an either/or proposition, but a matter of degree and certain life experiences can impact a person's ability to trust others. Common signs and symptoms in persons with trust issues Everyone has uncertainty about whom to trust, how much to trust, when not to trust, … [Read more...]
A Response to “What About Depression?”
Following the posting of my October 28, 2014 blog posting titled What About Depression?, I received the following response from a long-time friend. This is his personal journey. George, This is a topic that has always been important to me as I have experienced depression at different times during my life. At one stage it was so bad that I attempted suicide and required a stay at a hospital plus 6 months of therapy from a professional therapist. I was placed on 2 different medications during this period, an upper in the mornings and a downer … [Read more...]
Age Regression Through Hypnosis
Let us look at a controversial therapy topic: age regression through hypnosis. There are opinions on all sides of this topic, from so-called experts and people who just believe or disbelieve in the process. My experience with age regression came during my hypnotherapy training and we used it to an apparent good effect, whereby clients were able to resolve/solve issues/problems that were holding them back or interfering with their health and/or happiness. However, we never concerned ourselves with the arguments about whether or not the age … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 2)
We are back looking at couples Reaching Out For Help Let’s Look At Our Basic Human Needs In psychology, it is assumed that people have certain basic needs and in our program (Dynamic Discovery) they are classified under 5 headings for which we apply the acronym LAFFS: 1) Love & Belonging - this includes sex, families or loved ones as well as groups. 2) Achievement, Power and Recognition - which includes feeling worthwhile as well as winning. 3) Freedom - includes independence, autonomy, your own 'space'. 4) Fun - includes pleasure … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 1)
Reaching Out For Help can be difficult It is not unusual to get a call from someone (usually a woman) who says, “Our marriage is in trouble but (my partner) won’t go to counseling with me. What can I do?” Let’s pause to consider the situation… When one partner suggests bringing a counselor into their marriage problems the other partner either hears an alarm while envisioning being attacked by their partner and the counselor or imagines the stories that their partner and the counselor will release to the world. Confidentiality be damned! … [Read more...]