Reaching Out For Help can be difficult It is not unusual to get a call from someone (usually a woman) who says, “Our marriage is in trouble but (my partner) won’t go to counseling with me. What can I do?” Let’s pause to consider the situation… When one partner suggests bringing a counselor into their marriage problems the other partner either hears an alarm while envisioning being attacked by their partner and the counselor or imagines the stories that their partner and the counselor will release to the world. Confidentiality be damned! … [Read more...]
Codependency
Codependency - What is it? Codependency is a condition that results in a dysfunctional relationship between the codependent and other people. A codependent is addicted to helping someone. They need to be needed. This addiction is sometimes so strong, the codependent will cause the other person to continue to be needy. This behavior is called enabling. The enabler will purposefully overlook someone abusing a child, will call in sick for someone suffering from addiction, will put roadblocks to prevent their child from becoming independent, or … [Read more...]
How to Deal with Anger | Part 2
In case you missed Part 1. we discussed: Angry Emotions and behaviours. Here is Part 2 on How to Deal with Anger Tempers Flare When the Stakes are High All of us get angry – some more than others. We all likely know one or more people who seem to live in a constant state of anger. Their language is often colourful and filled with exclamation marks. A lot of things tick us off, irk, grate, bother, and have us wanting to either make someone “pay” or break something or maybe punch some idiot. Most of the time, these feelings subside and pass. … [Read more...]
Relationship advice – Men and Women are Different!
Relationship advice - Men & Women are Different. Now There’s a News Flash! Primary Differences: 1) women are not just men who can have babies 2) men are not just women who spike footballs Some differences are in the brain before birth and are not taught by society. Typically, women have a keener sense of smell and play worse chess than men. Women stand more pain than men, write less music, and do better in elementary school. Boys do not study to get short attention spans, nor are they taught to squirm and to run into walls. Girls … [Read more...]