You can get huge positive effects in your life by consciously replacing old habits with new ones, constructive behaviors or habits. The way you do that is to use our Dynamic Discovery self-evaluation techniques (more information can be found here on our website. However, it would be prudent to not eliminate a habit until you've found new ways to get the benefits of the habit. The following will explain the wisdom behind that advice. Every behavior has a positive intention In this context, positive doesn't necessarily mean "nice" - it means … [Read more...]
Do You Have Trust Issues?
Now that's a topic to explore! Let's start with a definition. Trust - the act of placing confidence in someone or something else - is a fundamental human experience, necessary for society to function and for any person to be relatively happy. Without it, fear rules. Trust is not an either/or proposition, but a matter of degree and certain life experiences can impact a person's ability to trust others. Common signs and symptoms in persons with trust issues Everyone has uncertainty about whom to trust, how much to trust, when not to trust, … [Read more...]
Setting Boundaries in your Relationship
Setting Boundaries in your Relationship is vital for a healthy one. There are four types of boundaries that develop in human beings: physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual. Physical and sexual boundaries are external, while emotional and spiritual ones are internal mechanisms. Each of these may be characterized by a position statement. Physical boundaries: I have the right to determine when, where, how, and who is going to touch me. I have the right to determine how close someone is going to stand next to me. Sexual boundaries: I … [Read more...]
Extroverts and Introverts in Relationships
Extroverts and Introverts in Relationships - What are you? The Extrovert Let’s say that you are the life-of-the-party, an extroverted mid-20s woman who just loves being around people. This approach to life sustains you in many ways and you have many friends, and you do your best to connect with them on a regular basis; and you get together three or four times a month with the ones who live near to you. You share a spacious, well-located home with your significant other (S/O) of two years. You regularly host dinner parties, barbeques, and … [Read more...]
Everybody Needs Control
Everybody Needs Control We try to control ourselves, people and situations to meet our needs or to get what we want. Often we are not aware that we are doing this. We may walk to the shop to buy something we want but be unaware of our surroundings as we walk down the street. Indeed, we may be "a million miles away" in our minds, daydreaming about something but still end up in the shop we wanted to go to: we were able to control our direction and our walking even though we were not aware of what we were doing! Everybody needs a certain amount … [Read more...]
Reaching Out For Help…Together (Part 2)
We are back looking at couples Reaching Out For Help Let’s Look At Our Basic Human Needs In psychology, it is assumed that people have certain basic needs and in our program (Dynamic Discovery) they are classified under 5 headings for which we apply the acronym LAFFS: 1) Love & Belonging - this includes sex, families or loved ones as well as groups. 2) Achievement, Power and Recognition - which includes feeling worthwhile as well as winning. 3) Freedom - includes independence, autonomy, your own 'space'. 4) Fun - includes pleasure … [Read more...]